I had to check this morning to see if I was still married. Well, Facebook married. I was surprised to see that I am, but that could change shortly. No, we’re not in trouble. We’re not headed to counseling. It’s just that today is my precious husband’s birthday, and he really, really doesn’t like attention so I figured he would deactivate his account temporarily. He has a history of such things.
I LOVE birthdays. But not just mine. I love celebrating other people’s birthdays too. I want to celebrate everyone else’s birthday the same way I like to celebrate mine—loud, proud, and extended. So 27 plus years ago, God sent a young man into my life who basically considers birthdays to be just a regular biological occurrence. He doesn’t need all the hoopla and actually really doesn’t enjoy it. WHAT??!!!! How can anyone not enjoy a day that is all about you? The phone ringing, the emails chirping, and screen after screen of Happy Birthdays from Facebook friends all over the world?
My husband. That’s who. It has taken me a long time to “get it.” I really thought that once he had a really fun birthday celebration, that he would enjoy them like I do. One year, I invited a bunch of friends over to celebrate one of those milestone birthdays. Rod threw up all day. I told the friends not to come over. Another year, he had an accident in the garage that resulted in the evening spent in the Emergency Room getting his hand stitched back together. However, because all his girls (including me) were so excited about his birthday dessert, he carefully hid his injured hand under the table until all the candles were blown out and the dessert was eaten. I’ve “surprised” him with cake at his office, banners, balloons, and everything else that I can think of. But 27 years later, I have to confess that he probably just tolerates these things. He really doesn’t love them like I do.
So today, I’m not “surprising” him. I didn’t paint messages on his car window for the rest of the DC commuters to read. I didn’t even tell anyone at his office it’s his birthday. Oh don’t worry. I still have plans to celebrate. But it will be the kind that he really likes.